Sometimes we lose ourselves. It is not always intentional, and we may never find the reason that allows us to walk away, but somehow we lose ourselves in the act of simply living. Each day brings with it a large number of tasks and responsibilities that force us to commit ourselves. Everything from upholding our manager’s expectations to meeting our partner’s personal needs creates a barrier that prevents us from being our true selves.
Commitment to Blame
Losing yourself is intimately linked to making compromises. It is an inescapable task that not even the most difficult person can evade. However, to truly feel fulfilled in life, we must ensure that our trade-offs are balanced in every healthy relationship and situation. When one side of the equation is constantly forced to settle down and deny its true wants and needs, the result is always negative. The results can produce a loss of self and self-esteem, longing for the past, and tense situations in which people overlook their smallest needs.
Before you know it, feelings of loneliness take over and you no longer know the person staring back at you in the mirror. Unsurprisingly, losing yourself is closely related to depression; because what is more depressing than not knowing who you are in life.
The solution to the problem is compromising. In the same way that we negotiate to make others happy, we must do the same in our own lives. If you feel like you are losing yourself, start the following activities:
WRITE THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY
This image activates images in your mind that tend to disappear in compromising situations. We tend to forget our true purpose and must constantly remind ourselves of our personal passions and goals. Remember your needs, then make allowances and allow yourself to bring the written elements to life.
AFTER CLEARLY SEEING WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, DO IT
Put your words into action. What’s the point of knowing what will make you happy if you’re not willing to make those goals come true? Time and energy should never stop you from reaching your most desired goals.
DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE YOURSELF
Nothing bitter an experience that you enjoy as someone who complains about all aspects of the situation. Leave them out of your invitation and attend the events yourself. Sure, not everyone will find joy in a book club or yoga class, and that’s fine personally. However, if those activities align with your personal needs and passions, then venture to those places on your own.
SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM THOSE WHO PREVENT YOU FROM BEING YOURSELF
Nothing is more exhausting than trying to be someone else. However, there are people in our life who will force us to change at all costs. There is only one solution: cut them off. To save yourself, you have to be yourself.
CHOOSE YOU FIRST
You are the most important person in your life. Sure, your family and friends are there, but in the end, neglecting yourself will only leave you regretful. I always choose you.